The Female Sex Deficit
I haven’t read the Dr Catherine Hakim paper that argues prostitution should be legalised because men need sex, and there’s a current deficit due to modern career focussed women not being prepared to give it to them. Only this: Telegraph article Therefore I have no right to comment on it. So I won’t. Instead I’ll talk about the Female Sex Deficit. Because frankly, women just aren’t getting it enough.
I’m basing this view on my sample base of single female friends, all intelligent, attractive, career orientated women, age roughly 28-40. I’d include married female friends, but generally speaking they’re not as open about how often they get it, therefore I don’t have that information to hand. Single women, however, talk about it a lot. They talk a lot about when they get it, and mostly, they talk about not getting it enough.
Which might be a surprise. You’d think single, attractive, intelligent women would have pick of the bunch. But it doesn’t quite work like that.
First off, one night stands for this group of women, are generally a dissatisfactory experience. Most women have experienced several of these intimate moments, and have generally been underwhelmed by the experience. Let’s face it - it’s take take on the blokes part (if he can drunkenly get it up in the first place), and then, see ya, the next day. A vibrator is often spoken of as a more satisfactory experience.
Whereas the potentially more meaningful dating experience is more complex than you’d expect. First off, English men aren’t very good at asking women out on a date. By ‘good’ I mean it just doesn’t happen, even though society tells men they need to do the asking, and they often feel emasculated if they don’t. This often leaves women in the no-mans-land of encouraging glances and ‘come hither’ body language, but no real control over their fate. Those that lack that subtle and wily flair, ultimately don’t get it.
Then there are the curious and unexpected moments of random men ‘making a move’. This often involves an insult as a way of getting the women’s attention. Then a lewd comment to further tempt her in. Men using this tactic are often batted off by the woman as being an ‘idiot’. Sometimes women talk the next day of mild regret for not going along with the situation, just so they could get it, but often another of the female group reminds them of their experience the last time they hooked up with a random bloke, and that’s enough to convince them they had made the right decision after all.
In summary, conclusions from monitoring this group are that they’re gagging for it. Don’t get it enough. And when they do get it, are generally dissatisfied.
